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They asked, ‘why is this so, O Messenger of Allah?’ He said, “Because you curse too much, and are
ungrateful for good treatment (on the part of your husband)
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Support him in his decisions. Don’t go against his decisions, if you dislike
something, talk to him gently when his is in a good mood and give him
reasons for your opinion
The Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu alaihe wasallam said, “It is not permitted for a woman who
believes in Allah to allow anyone into her husband’s house whom he dislike; or to go out when he
does not want her to; or to obey anyone else against him; or to forsake his bed; or to hit him. If he is
wrong, then let her come to him until he is pleased with her, and if he accepts her then all is well,
Allah will accept her deeds and make her position stronger, and there will be no sin on her. If he does
not accept her then at least she will have done her best and excused herself in the sight of Allah.”
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Take care of him
It is reported from Ayesha radiallahu anha that when the Messenger of Allah was in I’tikaf, he
inclined his head towards me and I combed his hair, and he didn’t enter the house except to answer
the call of nature.
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Don’t complain about his shortfalls to his family or to your family members
A woman came to Prophet Sallallahu alaihe wasallam about some matter, and when he had dealt
with it, he asked her, “Do you have a husband”. She said, “Yes”. He asked her, “How are you with
him”. She said, “I never fall short in my duties, except for that which is beyond me”. He said, “Pay
attention to how you treat him, for he is your Paradise and your Hell”.
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Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim
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Al Hakim 2/190
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Sahih Muslim
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Ahmad, An-Nasai