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PILLARS OF RELATIONSHIPS
Our life is surrounded by relationships, and these relationships are the pillars that support us throughout our
life. We get into many different types of relationships and every relationship has its own value. Each of the
relationship we have in our lives contributes to make us what we are. The way we handle them define the
importance of that particular pillar in our lives. If our relationship pillar is not strong enough, we cannot
achieve desire goal in our life which of course should be the pleasure of Allah SWT and attain Jannah.
There are three very important types of relationships that every person has:
1. With ourselves
2. With Allah, which include our relationship with the Qur’an and Prophet sallallahu alaihe wassallam,
3. With the world around us which includes our relationship with spouse, parents, children, relatives, friends
so on.
If we pay proper attention to all the three levels of relationships and learn to align these levels together we will
be able to live a peaceful and happy life in this world and the hereafter.
1.
Relationship with the self
: Any relationship needs a lot of work, and this is true also for our relationship with
ourselves. We need to put in a lot of effort to get to know ourselves first. Learn about our weakness and
strength. Next we must work towards accepting the different aspects of our personality and work on
strengthening the positive aspects. This will in turn strengthen the relationship pillar. After strengthening the
relationship with ourselves, we need to work on our relationship with Allah, the Qur’an and Prophet sallallahu
alaihe wassallam.
2.
Relationship with Allah, Qur’an and Prophet SAW
: This is the most important pillar in a Muslim’s life. We
can never get close to Allah by being arrogant, full of pride and having a bad character and manners. Those
who are closer to Allah possess humility, character, and good manners. Relationship with Allah means to
develop the way of life which is pleasing to Allah and in accordance with the Qur’an and authentic sunnah of
Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihe wassallam.
3.
Relationship with the world around us:
While building a relationship with another person it is important to
let go of the “me” and focus more on the “you”. Relationships work better when we stop thinking about
ourselves and start thinking about the other person. If we put in our best efforts to this end then there is no
reason why a relationship will not work. The interaction with the world is a vital part of our life. In fact, it
defines us in various ways. As we improve our interaction with the world our relationship pillar with the world
will get strengthened too.